Parent VS Friend

Well, I know that I have troubles on my way with a tween living in my home. I have had to experience the parent vs friend this week.

In order for Clarissa to ride and compete with Zoe, her horse... she is to have certain grades. Well, I found out that she has been the social butterfly in class. She has even been asked to leave the class room because she was being bad. It was bound to happen...no one is perfect in any way... But it has and now she is missing a competition and not riding for two weeks. On top of that her cell phone- is mine... only using it when she is to and from school. It was really hard to take away her passion that she has... however, it needed to be done. Her horse means the world to her and she is not only being punished, but so is Zoe... and she did not do anything wrong.

I feel horrible, however, I feel empowered to have make sure that Clarissa is being raised with self respect to herself and taking ownership of her actions-whatever they may be. On top of that...respect to her parents and people that she loves or love her... It was really hard to see her cry and feel hurt for her actions... but she needed to be knocked down a few notches. She is only 12 years old... not 18!

Being a parent is one of the most gratifying yet confusing jobs a mother can have. It is never ending and although we are not paid in cash, we are rewarded with hugs and kisses... or special moments that only a mother and child can share. I can never stay mad at her... she is my world and I love her with all my heart and soul. She is my friend and I know that the love we share is special and unconditional. Although I know that I am always being watched, judged and criticized...by her. I know that in the end, When she becomes a mother herself... she will go thru the same thing... and she loves me... and I love her so much -I am lost for words.